Q&A: help me with my friend. PLEASE? should i give up?
Posted on January 11th, 2012 by Ask Salomon under Stop Sweatingme and my friend have been friends pratically since birth;p
i have a tape of us playing when we were two[;
but anyway, shes older than me, by like a couple months,
but shes in the grade below me because she got held back in kindergarden.
well she met this other girl. lets say her friends name is “carmen”
when she met “carmen” she forgot about me, and she has this friends list thing and she put “carmen” at the very top and ME at the very bottom. and she has a facebook, so her status when shes with “carmen” is ‘hanging with MY SISTER CARMEN, i love this girl(:”
and if shes hanging with me she just says “hanging with alex”
and she invited me to the mall with her and her exact words were “because carmen or fallon couldnt go” so im like her 3rd wheel. and i took pictures for her, and she didnt even say thanks or anything. and she always makes picture collages of her and “carmen”
theyve been friends for like a year now, and even when shes with me she talks about “carmen” all the time. for example we were listening to the radio, and a song came on and she was like “omfg this is carmens favorite song” and shes turned into a real WH0RE. we were making a vid of us dancing jus for fun, and she had on sweat pants, and she went and changed into BOOTY SHORTS, jus because we were making a vid, when the vid was over she changed back. and when i told her we were moving and i wouldnt be going to the same school, she just said “oh” should i give up?
her friends name isnt really carmen, btw :p
jus a random name that i used her real name in replacement.
i tried telling her about it, then when we get in arguments,
then she writes mean things about me,
i forget to mention this;
we got ina argument and on heer fb status, she was like
“sehs such a baby and stupid ugh omfg”
then her and carmen were like “she needs to build a bridge and get over it. haha lol yeah ikr”
and stuff like that:/
Best answer:
Answer by J3NN*
you should probably try talking to her about it. she may resent you and be jealous since you are younger then her but a grade higher. also if “carmen” is in the same grade as her she probably has the opportunity to see her more and develop a closer relationship with her. sadly, these kind of things are common, it’s happened to me. People change and not always for the better 
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January 11th, 2012 at 6:16 pm
If your friend is going to treat you like crap you don’t need her as a friend.
January 11th, 2012 at 6:42 pm
if you show her that you dont care as much as you really do, then maybe she will start to realize how much you meant to her and want you back. but, then again, if shes changed so much, then i wouldnt even want to be her firend anymore.
January 11th, 2012 at 6:46 pm
I say you should stop giving her everything she wants. be a little hard to get. if she calls you say your busy and go out with another friend of yours! dont put this girl on a pedestal ! start talking to other girls and form your own group dont leave her out completely just little by little. still be friends with her but just dont be tehre for her 24/7.
answer mine plese? its about a friend of mine like this too!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110111111056AATU2F0
January 11th, 2012 at 6:56 pm
Your most important phrase was “we are moving.” You’ll have her replaced real soon.
And by the time she “remembers” you (at a class reunion 6 years from now), she’ll never remember you two split.
January 11th, 2012 at 7:49 pm
Honey, you’re going to find out in life that as we get older we ALL change. What/who was once important to us no longer is & visa verse. This is one example of just that! Yes you were the best friends growing up, but now things have really changed, especially as far as she goes. Seems her whole personality has changed along with it. She is just not the same “kid” you knew when you were growing up in many ways. Look at just her “taste” in clothes & the way she now “conducts” herself is definitely different. As far as I’m concerned from what you’ve stated, it’s not a change for “the best” either! It also appears to me she doesn’t sound like your “type of person” any longer. With all that, I have the suspicion as time goes on the two of you are NOT going to be seeing eye to eye on things like you use to. Therefore, I really feel at some point in the future you wouldn’t be that close anymore regardless of “Carmen” or not. You’re going to a new school, going to meet & make all new friends I’m sure. I would just say to remember the good times you had when you were “close” & good friends & leave those memories in your “memory bank” so to say. Think about it & see if I’m not rite on what I’ve mentioned so far. People do come & go in our lives, some stay for short time, some for a long time. Just try your best not to let this upset you as it is the way life does go on a “normal” basis. She’s on one path now, you’re on another. The older you get the more you’ll learn what it means to have a good friend, a “true” friend. These are the ones/one that are going to be the most important to you, the ones you value the most. I’d look forward to moving & meeting new people in your life. I’m like my Mom in believing things happen for reasons. Possibly this DID happen for a reason in that you will not be missing her as much if you were still real close. Now you’ll be able, more or less feel more free to be able to make new friends & just will find someone you can really be close to & someone who will mean a lot to you. I’m sure you’ll be fine & can look forward to the move & making a whole new set of new friends. The best to you, honey.*